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How Do I Maintain a Relationship with a Slow Life?

Ita Buttrose claims that Millennials aren’t resilient; Buzzfeed’s Anne Helen Petersen seems to believe that we are the burnout generation because “We’re spoiled, entitled, lazy, and failures at what’s come to be known as “adulting,” a word invented by millennials as a catchall for the tasks of self-sufficient existence.” But in reality, we are none of those things. In reality, we are the generation that carries all the expectations of the generations that came before us but with more uncertainty, more pressure to perform, and more judgment when we don’t than any generation that has preceded us.

Millennial women, in particular, face more expectations than any other group in recent history because we were the generation that grew up with social media, which only projects the ultimate in ideals set for women in how we are meant to be. More and more often, I am regaled by stories of friends who are highly skilled professionals being unable to perform certain “normal” tasks like dropping off their clothes at the dry cleaners or mailing a birthday card on time. But it’s not because they are lazy. It’s because Millennial women constantly live in a state of hyperdrive — the mental clutter is never-ending because Millennial women were brought up to believe that unless they are birthing or working, they are neither useful nor productive members of society.

"Millennial women constantly live in a state of hyperdrive — the mental clutter is never-ending because Millennial women were brought up to believe that unless they are birthing or working, they are neither useful nor productive members of society."

Lauren Winzar, the Decluttering Coach, would agree, contending that the messages coming at women constantly and rapidly to do more, be more, do better, and be better are not only overwhelming but are harmful to productivity. “There is so much pressure to do more,” says Lauren, “ the reality is that clutter comes in all shapes and sizes. I help simplify the clutter —  both the clutter that you can see and the clutter that you can’t”.

Lauren has met with women from all over Canberra,  focusing on mindset changes, habit tweaking, and giving advice for real people in a non-judgemental way. “My job is to change their mindset around the guilt and perfectionism that follows women, and look at how women can organise their lives, from their calendars to their garages.” The two are inherently linked, and if you can clean up your mental space, you can clean up your physical one, too.

This type of de-cluttering takes effort, and it certainly doesn’t happen overnight. That’s why Lauren puts a lot of focus onto coaching her clients, creating bespoke plans to help them achieve their goals, one day at a time. “Everyone’s clutter is different, so I work with the client depending on who she is. But one thing I always try to emphasise is that the rolling to-do lists aren’t helpful. I  help clients see that they can do some, and some is good enough. That progress is better than nothing. Real change can’t happen in a day.”

"[S]ome is good enough. That progress is better than nothing. Real change can’t happen in a day.”

Clients leave Lauren’s sessions with a new mindset, a home that is like new, and, importantly, a feeling of relief. “My clients tell me they feel a weight lifted after their first session and after working with me through a package many have life-changing results to report – from falling in love with their home again to feeling ready to start that new business they’ve always dreamt of.”

For more information on how you can de-clutter your mind and home, visit Lauren Winzar Decluttering Coach on Facebook and Instagram.

RAE KNOPIK

is the founder and current President (2019-2020) of the CBR Gals Network Board. She is a regular contributor to the Network’s blog.

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